Thursday, March 3, 2011

A Special Festival

Feb 21 was a hard day for me... it was my daughter's 17th birthday.  Each year that date rolls around and I am faced with the bitter-sweet day.  I celebrate the day I gave her life, but it is also the day that I had to put my adoption plan into motion. Will that sadness of that day every go away?  Probably not.  But from my perspective, the sadness is a reminder of how deeply I love her.  I can find great peace in knowing that she is celebrating another year with her family and that my decision will hopefully have a positive impact on her future... and impact many generations to come!

I came across this note on Facebook and was so blessed to see Kyle's perspective on his birthday.  With his permission, I have posted it below so that we can grasp the impact of one woman's decision and how it has had such an impact on so many.  Happy Birthday Kyle!
~Janelle

A Special Festival
by Kyle Thompson

My birthday is special…I know everyone’s birthday is special, but I cherish my birthday for a number of reasons.  And, this year is especially exceptional in particular for a number of reasons.  For many years my sister and I have had a bit of a non-competitive contest regarding how the days of our birth would be celebrated by having unofficial birthday ‘weeks’.  It is all in good fun, and we each go out of our way to out do the other in celebrating these wonderful days.  Let me tell you why it is so special to us…

Thirty-five years ago today a very young girl made an amazing sacrifice.  Scared and without many options, with a choice to terminate her pregnancy, this high school student went to a Lexington Hospital and decided to give a child everything that she could not provide at the time…That teenager gave up a life that she carried for nine months to a wonderful and amazing family.  Just three years earlier, the United States Supreme Court under the guise of the Due Process Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment gave any woman that had an unwanted pregnancy the right to end it, without repercussion.  I can only imagine the stress and pressure that an adolescent would endure at a time when prom dresses and basketball games should have been her only concern.   Instead she faced decisions regarding abortion or adoption….And yet, this girl decided to grant me the gift of life…

I am more blessed than I can imagine.  Not only do I have the most amazing parents that anyone can hope for, but I have the greatest sister in the world, a wife that cares for me deeply, two remarkable little girls, and now a breathtaking son.  I have stood before the United States Supreme Court, watched the Governor of my great Commonwealth sign a bill that I wrote, and shook the hand of a United States Senator that personally thanked me for helping him get elected.  I have also held the hand of two dying grandmothers that thanked me for memories, traveled this country from Maine to California, and hugged the most amazing children that I had the pleasure to help also receive the gift of adoption.  And, none of this would have been possible had one young girl not had the courage to give me life.  For that I am thankful.  But, I am even more thankful for my parents that gave me every opportunity in the world to live the most fulfilling of lives, a sister that loves me unconditionally, my family that makes me the happiest and proudest husband and father, an extended family that is not only totally whacky but unbelievably loving, and the absolute best friends in the world that accept me even with all of my flaws and failures.  This year is special because every year is more special than the last.  It is one more year that I have been blessed when I did not have to be…And, for that I am truly thankful.

So, this year I am not throwing a big party.  There will be no disco balls or loud music.  And there will probably not be many decorations, save a few candles on a modest birthday cake.  But that is just fine with me, because this year I will reflect on the amazing milestones I have experienced and the unbelievable life that I have yet to live…It has been a great thirty-five years and I look forward to the next thirty-five.

“For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11….Yeah, that’s pretty cool.

7 comments:

  1. WOW! This is so powerful. Thank you immensely for sharing this. I cried, but happy tears. I'm on the birthmom road and it's been rocky lately. Reading that letter gave me so much hope and peace for the time being. Thank you.

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  2. I cried as well! It was so nice to hear the apprecaition and love that he has for the decision his birth mother made. As a birth mom myself, it is so easy to get wrapped up in the emotions surrounding the loss.... but I can carry the sadness as long as she (my daughter) is enjoying life and all the blessing that come her way!

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  3. Gloria3/04/2011

    As a birth grandmother (and your mother, Janelle), I was so blessed to read this amazing message from Kyle. I saw your puffy eyes and tear-stained face on February 21st, Janelle, and am so glad to be able to see that pain balanced out by hearing the gratitude of the recipient of the gift of life and a loving family. Thank you, Kyle.

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  4. Anonymous3/04/2011

    what an amazing gift she gave you the gift of life

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  5. Janelle...I read your blog. I was at LGH....you came and spoke with us. I am forever thankful for your insight on adoption. My little girl turned 15 this year. I struggle all the time with it. I know that I made the most unselfish decision of my life that day. Thank you for your blog...it really helps.

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  6. Thank you for your kind words. My daughter turned 17 this year and I feel so old! Time sure does fly.
    I would love to reconnect with you! Message me at jabasham@liberty.edu

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  7. Thank you all for the very kind words. I am truly a very blessed individual and I am also very thankful that I can share my story with anyone who will listen...My story is one that is an example of the immense grace provided by my Heavenly Father and his decision to not only allow me to be adopted on this Earth, but also into his glorious family. Janelle, keep up the great work...It makes a difference.

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